A letter was sent to Robert from a reader from Texas who wanted to know more about something I had mentioned in one of our columns about being safe and creating safety around oneself, about creating an avenue of safety to arrive at whatever place one needed to go, and then creating that same avenue back. So I’m going to talk a little bit about this tonight for that fellow.
In your time, people are constantly exposed to people they don’t know and have never met, whereas in my time, that’s almost unknown. Oh, there is the occasional person you didn’t know and had never met, but after you talk for a moment or two, you discover that you have friends and family alike or in common. Or you discover that his father or your father or someone like that was somebody your relatives had met, because there are not that many people around in my time where I live.
In short, common ground was easy to find, but I understand in your time that it can be a bit more challenging and sometimes you feel like you’re really out of place in a community and you’re worried about what people might be thinking about you.
Using The Heart Heat Exercise to Prepare the Way
First, you need to be familiar with the Heart Heat exercise. I want to talk about other things, but I’m going to build on that for those of you who have done the Heart Love exercises (or the Heart Heat exercise, as it is also called).
I’ll give it in two different ways, and this is the first. For those of you who can do the Heart Heat exercise, if you know that you’re going to have to go someplace you’re not sure about—and I’m not just talking about going down to the grocery store or supermarket, it might be a trip halfway around the world or to some other spot where you don’t know anybody—this is for you.
What I’d like you to do is to get that heat going real good inside your body and just stay in that heat. You don’t have to say any words, but while you are in that heat, just blow out of your mouth anytime you’re ready to exhale. (But don’t blow that heat out of your body, because that’s not what it’s about.) Just exhale sharply, blowing out, then get a quick picture of your drive to the airport and see that heat blowing down there ahead of you before you get to the airport, then as you walk into the airport and finally as you travel to where you’re going to go.
Every once in a while when you exhale—all the while focusing on the heat—just blow in the direction of your trip. This plants seeds, plants some of your love there for you so that when you do get to those places, there will be love of your own there for you. But don’t do this for the way back until you’re ready to return. Do it one way at a time.
Maybe someone’s driving you to the airport, or you’re in a bus or in one of the little shuttle planes or a van. At some point, you might even focus into that heat in your chest or solar plexus and just blow forward, looking out through the windshield or toward the windshield.
Blow forward to just blow some of that love in front of you and picture that love going to the airport. From time to time, go into the heart heat and just blow in the direction in which you’re going. It can’t possibly harm anybody else because it’s love. Now, don’t blow unless you’ve got that heat with one exception, which I’ll tell you about later.
And so having done this, you arrive safely at your destination. It’s planting safety and love for you, but it’s all right to be courteous to others and as nice as you can be. Don’t try and take advantage of it, though I’m not too worried that you will.
Do this every leg of the way until you get to your hotel or destination. If you have a presentation to make or people to visit, continue to do it every once in a while, just blow when you’re in that heart heat.
That heat in your chest or solar plexus will help you to be safe and have a good experience, or as good as you can have, meaning that there might be some challenges that come up. But the challenges won’t be as extreme as they might have been otherwise, because you would have already seeded some love there. If the experiences are challenging, there will be something good about them because you’ve already seeded love there for yourself and it ought to make a significant improvement. That’s really all you can ask for.
The Return Trip
Then when you’re on your way home, follow the same procedure. Now, if you had decided to do this Heart Heat exercise all the way back before you’d even gotten there, before you’d even left, you would have unintentionally erased what you already did. So do it one way first and that will be good; then you’re there. When you’re done at your destination and ready to come back to the hotel, to the airport and all that business, then just repeat that cycle going all the way back to your home. That will work for you.
Picture a Gold Light inside Your Body
I want to give you the second way to do this because for some of you, you’ve had trouble getting focused in that heart heat. You’ll get there eventually, but it might take you awhile. So I’d like you to do something else. Picture gold light inside your body. Picture it like a light bulb or as a glowing spot of gold light, and let it radiate around you.
Imagine the gold light, and if you know about the wand position, which has been shown before, then take that position with your right hand. You can aim your left hand down toward the ground if you want to, whatever feels good to you. Imagine the path you were doing that heart heat on, the heat love. Just imagine the drive to the airport and the flight as you did earlier, and using your right index and third fingers as a wand, send a ribbon of gold light all along your route.
Again, do this one way at a time. When you get done at your destination and you’re ready to come back, do the same thing with your wand and the ribbon of gold light for the return trip. Now, it’s not quite as good as the heart heat, but it’s pretty good. If you make a good connection, ask your angels and guides to help you out. You can also ask the planets to help you out and the Sun and the Moon, if you like. You can ask Creator. Ask anybody you want, but do it yourself as well.
Make the physical gesture. Aim your right hand out there. Move your hand around if you want. If you can picture the way the road curves, move your hand in sync with the curving and the road. You can do this if it happens to be the part of the trip you see, but you don’t have to. Just imagine that gold ribbon all the way there. And when you’re done there, repeat this for the way back. This will help make it safer for you and give you a little more confidence. There are other ways to do this, but these two ways are the ways for you to start.
What about the long safety exercise for those who are seriously unable to go out of their homes? Is that something you can give?
That’s very elaborate; generally, Zoosh and I will give that exercise in some form to individuals in private sessions because it takes anywhere from twenty to forty minutes to explain. But I will give it here because it’s important.
This is for people who feel not only unsafe or nervous or worried, but really frightened. Sometimes it will be a fear that’s justifiable, someone you have reason to be fearful of. Other times, you won’t be able to put your finger on it, but it’s really complicating your life. Maybe it makes you shy to go out and about and do things, to meet people and go places. I realize this is particularly challenging in your time because your technology enables more people to stay home and have everything they need for work, entertainment, shopping and communication available in their homes.
Most of you who are alive today, with the possible exception of a few oldsters, will be alive for an electrical instrument that will be able to check your body at home and make recommendations for prescription medications and even some herbal medications in time (when the established medical profession broadens its point of view). It will only be necessary for you to go see a doctor if the instrument does not understand what is bothering you.
In short, many of you will be encouraged to not go many places. It’s not because anybody is trying to control you, but the technology exists to provide for almost all your needs without you really having to go anywhere. In more technological cities, this is now becoming increasingly available. That’s why even simple things, such as an actual awareness of the true population of a given state or country, are really often unknown, because many people are just not available. They don’t answer the door for one reason or another—sometimes for good reasons, sometimes just because they don’t want to. And sometimes you don’t even know who’s living in your own building. You might not see those people very often, or even people in your own neighborhood or town.
This is why from time to time there is the creation of power blackouts. Sometimes you can say, “It’s this or it’s that,” but in the larger sense, it’s just a creation that you’re all involved in or something you allow for one reason or another. But a future reason will be that it’s important for you to understand just how many people are out there, that you’ve got neighbors in the general area where you live that you’ve never even met. Blackouts will become more common in the future, but for right now this is just something to mention as a coming event. And I’m not predicting catastrophes or anything like that; it’s just that you have more reasons to stay home if you want to.
But I’m now talking to people who stay home because they’re afraid to go out. There is an exercise that Zoosh and others and myself refer to as the Safety exercise, which involves many stages. Other people have given bits and pieces of it over the years, but this is a long, elaborate exercise that will help some of you, especially those of you who have trouble getting to that heart heat thing. The Heart Heat exercise is the quick way to get to feeling safe and more comfortable. But if you can’t do it the quick way, then here’s another way.
Imagine you’re in your apartment or your home, and let’s say that you’re either alone or you’ve managed to create some alone time during the week. I’d like you to lie down in your bed if you can or sit in a chair, whichever is most comfortable for you. If you can do the Heart Heat exercise, that’s the best, but if you can’t, I’d like you to just imagine yourself feeling loved or appreciated. If that’s awkward or difficult or it’s not something in your life that you experience much, then I want you to remember a time or imagine yourself being loved or appreciated or protected so that you’re imagining an experience of being safe.
Once upon a time when you were babies, there was always for all of you (even if it was a short time for some of you who had a harder life) at least one adult who would pick you up, and you felt completely safe with that person. Maybe that person wasn’t even an adult—he/she might have been an older brother or sister—but when he/she held you, you knew you were safe. So, try and remember that time. If you can’t remember it, then imagine it so that you can have that feeling in your body, the physical feeling of feeling safe. That’s what I want you to do for the first seven times of this exercise.
If you can do it one day after another for seven days, that’s fine, but if you can’t, just count up the times you’re doing it so you have that physical feeling inside your body that you can recognize as feeling safe. Or you might feel loved or comforted or nurtured or appreciated, but these all have to do with the feeling of safety.
After doing it seven times, you’ll be able to recognize how it feels to feel safe in your physical body. Of course, it will also remind you how rarely you do feel safe as you go about the rest of your life, but this exercise is designed to give you the opportunity to generate your own safety rather than relying on external circumstances to create it for you.
So after doing this seven times and accomplishing the feeling—not just trying it seven times, but accomplishing it—then you can go on to the next level of the exercise. I want you to take as much time as you need with all these things. The full completion of this exercise might easily take a year or longer. For others of you who have more time to devote to it, you might be able to accomplish it in a couple of months, but it does take awhile.
Stay in Your Safety Zone
The next level is this: Sit in a chair or lie down on a bed and while you’re sitting or lying there, simply go into that feeling of safety. Then move your arms and legs around. If you’re sitting in the chair, that will be easy to do; if you’re lying on the bed, it will also be easy.
Stay in that feeling of safety all the while. If the feeling goes away, stop moving and go back into that feeling of safety and into the exercise on that feeling. Now perhaps not immediately, because it might take five or six tries or more, but you’ll be able to maintain that feeling of safety and move your arms and legs around. You can have your eyes closed if you want to; that’s perfectly fine for the beginning stages of the exercises. It might make it easier for some of you.
If you’re taking this time in the middle of the day, you might want to put your phone machine on or unplug your phone for a little while so you can minimize any concern you might have about being distracted. Do the best you can. At some point you’ll be able to go into that feeling of safety at this level of the exercise and you’ll be able to move your arms and legs around while still maintaining that level of safety. But just remain lying on the bed or sitting in the chair, that’s fine.
Once you’ve done this three or four times and you accomplish it every time, then you are ready for the next level of the exercise, which involves the following: You are on the bed or in the chair; go into that feeling of safety. Then swing your legs over the edge of the bed (if you’re on the bed) and stand up. Now, if you don’t have your eyes open, open them. You don’t have to open your eyes though, because probably you can stand up without opening them. But you don’t have to do that just yet if you don’t want to.
If you’re sitting in the chair, just stand up, all the while maintaining that feeling of safety. That’s the groundwork for this. Practice this seven or eight times so that you can go into that feeling of safety. Stand up (don’t walk around); just stand up and stay close to the bed or the chair. Maintain that feeling of safety and then sit or lie back down. Do this seven or eight times.
The Next Level
Here’s the next level of the exercise: Go into that feeling of safety and get ready to stand up, but open your eyes, all the while maintaining that feeling of safety. If that feeling ever goes away, lie or sit back down, close your eyes and get that feeling of safety back, and that’s the end of the exercise for that day. Don’t feel bad about it; it takes time for you to build up experience and learn how to do it well. And when you don’t rush yourself this way, you know you’re making progress. Remember, no one’s taking notes or putting a red check mark by your name.
At some point, you’ll be able to stand up with your eyes open. Don’t look around the room too much, but if there are things in the room that sometimes upset you to look at if you’d like to for the exercise, you can put a towel over those things so you don’t have to see them. Obviously, if it’s a human being, there’s nothing you can do about that, but if it is some object or picture that just has to be in the room but you don’t really like, cover it up with something.
Now you’re ready for the next level of the exercise, and you’re making progress. Go into that feeling of safety and open your eyes—all the while maintaining that physical feeling of safety in your body—and I’d like you to take a few steps. Just walk over to the nearest wall and touch it. You don’t have to touch any objects on the wall. You can touch it with your fingertips or the back of your hand; it doesn’t make any difference.
Just walk over and touch the wall and turn around and walk back. If it’s a closet door, that’s fine. Turn around and walk back, sit or lie back down and stay with that feeling of safety. Then the exercise is over. I’d like you to accomplish this about ten times.
Never do the exercise more than once a day. You can do it for up to twenty or thirty minutes if you want to, but no more than once a day. You want your body to be able to adjust to this slowly and not feel rushed; that’s really important.
After you’ve done this ten times, you’ll be ready to do more. Each time we build on what we’ve done before. So go into that feeling of safety, open your eyes and get up. This time walk around the room; don’t examine things but simply touch them casually. Just touch them with the back of your hands or your fingertips. You can pick something up if you want to, but if you pick it up, it has to be something that doesn’t mean much to you, such as a stone or a blank piece of paper or something like that.
All the while you are maintaining the feeling of safety. If at any time the feeling of safety goes away, go back to the chair or the bed and go back into that feeling of safety that you’ve learned how to do well, then end the exercise. You can hold the feeling of safety as long as you want, but just end the exercise with that. So that’s that level of the exercise. I’d like you to do this at least five times, all right?
Now as I say, it won’t be easy to accomplish these things, because you’re educating your body. This isn’t about creating safe conditions that you can be in; it’s about creating safety within your body and learning how your body works so that you are essentially projecting a field of safety around yourself, even though it won’t feel at all like you’re doing that. It will feel as if you’re going inside your body to feel safety and that it’s all you can do to walk around the room and open your eyes and touch a few things casually while you’re so focused in your body. But it’s a way of relearning how the physical world can work. That’s why you need to take your time and go slow.
Interacting with a Friend
After you’ve accomplished that level, you’re ready for the next big stage. That will involve leaving the area you’ve been using to do this exercise—your bedroom or den or whatever place you could get away from it all. The next stage will also involve someone you care about, someone you know who cares about you enough to help you.
It might be better if the person is not a family member, just so there is that little effect of the outside, but you need a person whom you are able to trust. If a family member is the only one who’s available, ask him/her if he’ll help you.
Explain that you’re doing an exercise to learn how to feel safer and you’d like some cooperation. If the person asks you how it’s done, tell him as much as you know so far, but don’t discuss it. No pros and cons and no arguments. A good friend won’t need an explanation. Just say it’s something you’re working on and when you feel that you’ve really got it down, you’ll not only be happy to explain it, but you’ll be happy to show how it works. Because once you’ve got this down, you can show it or teach it to anybody.
If you’ve been doing the exercise in your bedroom, ask your friend to come over at a certain time and sit in the living room, maybe on the couch. Serve tea, put out magazines and books for him and then say you’re going to do the exercise pretty soon. Don’t turn on the television for him though; it’s always best not to have the TV on during these things.
Then go into the bedroom and do the exercise all the way up to that point. You’ve accomplished this before and that’s why the person needs to be a friend, because if you can’t get past any one of those stages, you have to lie back down and go back into safety, and then do the exercise again. That’s why I had you practice these things so much. Your friend might still have to make several trips back and forth before you’re ready.
At some point, you’re going to be able to walk around the room and touch those things, all right? And that was where we left off. Now, all the while maintaining that feeling of safety so that you’re really focused into your body, feeling that safety, I’d like you to open the door. Maybe you’ve had the bedroom door shut, maybe not, but open the door and go out and sit on the couch with your friend, still maintaining that level of safety.
If at any time the feeling goes away, just go back and lie down, go back into safety and it’s over. But remember, this is a big stage. So at some point you’re going to be able to sit down and look at your friend. You can close your eyes to begin to do this with the person. Just keep your eyes closed and talk about simple things that have practically no meaning, such as, “It’s a nice day outside today,” or “That was a lot of rain we had today.” You’ve all had these conversations that don’t really mean anything; just keep it simple like that. Nothing complicated, you understand: “Nice weather we’re having lately.” “It sure is.” No more than that, something simple. And then if you can, open your eyes, all the while maintaining the safety and talking of simple, innocuous things that have no meaning to you.
When that’s done, say, “Thank you.” Then, maintaining the feeling of safety, walk back to the chair or the bed (wherever you started the exercise). Lie down, go into the feeling of safety and thank your friend. It’s going to take a good friend to do this; that’s why I recommend a friend, not a family member, because it takes someone who really cares about you and is not attached to anything that goes on in family relations. It can be a family member, but it’s often easier if it’s a friend, maybe a next-door neighbor.
I’d like you to accomplish this at least ten times with the friend, all the while maintaining the safety. Now, we’re getting near the end of the exercise, arriving at kind of a graduation day. We’re not quite there yet, but we’re getting there. That’s why this part is so important.
Leaving Your House in Safety
If you can accomplish that level after ten times, you’ll be ready to go on to the next level and the next level after that. We’re going to keep it simple, but we’re going to involve your friend again if that’s possible or someone you know who doesn’t need to talk because I’d like you to have a quiet ride. The next level of the exercise has to do with leaving your house, and this might require a lot of back and forth and going back into that feeling of safety, perhaps even ending the exercise.
Talk to your friend and ask if he will drive to the department store or the supermarket or a mall or someplace where a lot of people go to shop for different objects. Now, this is not to be a trip that you need to take, all right? I want you to go to the store at a time when you don’t need anything, because I don’t want it running around in your head, “Oh, I need some aspirin,” or “I need to pick up some tissue,” or “I need to pick up some apples.”
I want you to have all that done before you go there. It would actually be best to go to a store where you never go because you never buy or need any of their stuff. That would be the best way, but if that’s not available, go to what is available.
Have your friend pick you up at your door and drive you to the store. All the while you’re going to maintain that feeling of safety. You’re going to go through all the steps you normally go through. You’re going to walk out to the car. Have your friend open the car door for you and close it after you—you’re maintaining that feeling of safety, so you don’t want to have to think about those things.
Fasten your seat belt, but stay focused in the safety. Once you’re in the vehicle, if at any time that feeling of safety goes away (this is the exception), just relax, go back into the feeling of safety, then end the exercise, and you and your friend can go get a bite to eat or something. We’re going to make the exception here because it’s just so elaborate and it involves your being considerate of another person.
But let’s say, after so many tries—no one can say how many for each of you—you manage to get to the store, all the while maintaining the feeling of safety (so you’re not talking with your friend other than to say hello). You get to the store, and your friend might say to you, “Okay, we’re there now” or “Okay, this is close as I can get.” Maybe you are driven up to the door of the store or perhaps the car is parked right near the door.
This is graduation day. It will be complicated because you have to open your eyes and step out of the door on your own. This time your friend doesn’t open the door for you. All the while you are maintaining your feeling of safety and you know what to do if at any time that feeling goes away. You will walk back out to the car, get in and go back into that safety and hold it for as long as it’s comfortable to you. Then you can relax, and that’s it for the day.
But this is what is intended for the graduation exercise. You go into the store. If it’s a supermarket, you can pick up a little basket—you don’t have to get the kind you wheel around. You don’t even have to get a basket at all, but if you want to, you can get the kind you wheel around. I want you to simply walk up one aisle and down the other. You don’t have to walk around the whole store. You can stop sometimes and touch some of the objects, but you don’t have to buy anything; in fact, I’d rather you didn’t.
If people say hello, you can nod to them and smile and you can say hello, but don’t pay too much attention to them because they might want to engage you in conversation as is normal in such places. But all the while I want you to be focused on maintaining that feeling of safety. Now granted, this is complicated compared to what you’ve been doing, so it might take you many tries to do it.
But if you can do that, walk slowly up one aisle and down the other; don’t rush yourself. You might make it part of the time and it might take you awhile to accomplish the whole thing, but walk up one aisle and down the other, still maintaining that feeling of safety. You haven’t bought anything, so just walk. Park your empty basket and walk back out the door, get back into the car, still maintaining the feeling of safety. Then relax and sit back. Go into the feeling of safety and come out of it, smile at your friend and go out and have a nice lunch or dinner or do whatever you want.
You’ve graduated. Now it’s true that the feelings of being nervous or upset might come up again, but once you’ve accomplished this safety exercise for yourself, you’ll be able to use it a lot. You’ll find that you’ll be able to quickly focus on being safe, whether it’s at work or perhaps at the airport or some other place. When you suddenly feel those old feelings of nervousness and stress, you’ll be able to focus in on feeling safe and continue what you are doing.
Practice this, and if any of you need any other, more elaborate instructions, please write a letter to this magazine addressed to me and I will elaborate on it if you feel it’s necessary. I know this doesn’t cover all situations, but I’m giving you this really because this young fellow from Texas wrote and asked about safety in a world that can sometimes be complex and a little upsetting. And I know you’ve all had this experience, so that’s the safety exercise.